Harbor where to settle:

Harbor of idealism—“If I get married, I’ll be happy until the end of my days”.

Harbor of companionship—“I can’t stand the thought of living alone for the rest of my life”.

Harbor of sexual fulfillment—“Marriage means that I can enjoy sex anytime I want and never feel guilty of fearful”.

Harbor of social acceptance—“My family and friends keep asking me, “When are you going to settle down and get married?”

Relying on only one of those harbors may not result in a good marriage. I now understand, orienting to a right harbor is very vital.